It is not easy for parents to handle children's discipline problems. Smacking and humiliation are not the appropriate way. Unfortunately, they are in fact commonly used by many parents.
I have read some very good pointers regarding parenting ideas for effective discipline.
- Establish clear limits and boundaries for children. Rules need to be clear and specific. Be home at six o'clock is more effective than 'don't be late'.
- Cue children once when giving instructions and directions. Repeated requests or threats only encourage 'parent deafness' in children.
- Act when children don't stick to the limits or refuse to cooperate. Rather than nag or coax children into doing the right thing, implement a consequence that is related to their misbehaviour.
- Pinpoint the reason for the children's misbehaviour. As much of their misbehaviour is to get parents' attention, our initial reaction often encourages it further. Try changing the way you respond.
- Encourage children at every opportunity. Children who are difficult to deal with generally lack self-confidence and doubt their self worth so they need constant encouragement.
- Remember, consistency rather than severity is the key to effective discipline.
(from "Parenting Ideas" by Michael Grose)
I have read some very good pointers regarding parenting ideas for effective discipline.
- Establish clear limits and boundaries for children. Rules need to be clear and specific. Be home at six o'clock is more effective than 'don't be late'.
- Cue children once when giving instructions and directions. Repeated requests or threats only encourage 'parent deafness' in children.
- Act when children don't stick to the limits or refuse to cooperate. Rather than nag or coax children into doing the right thing, implement a consequence that is related to their misbehaviour.
- Pinpoint the reason for the children's misbehaviour. As much of their misbehaviour is to get parents' attention, our initial reaction often encourages it further. Try changing the way you respond.
- Encourage children at every opportunity. Children who are difficult to deal with generally lack self-confidence and doubt their self worth so they need constant encouragement.
- Remember, consistency rather than severity is the key to effective discipline.
(from "Parenting Ideas" by Michael Grose)
